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kittybeardYay for reasons to hate Mondays x.x
Me: *Walking around in kitchen* You know I can't tell if I'm hungry, it sucks my appetite is still dead-
Mom: DON'T STEP IN MY DIRT!!! I was going to vacuum there but when you wake up late I have to clean late around you because you just get in the way!!!
Me: O_O I've been up for a few hours... (why the hell can't she clean before I get up as well?)
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Me: *In my room getting some dirty clothes together, lalalala*
Mom: We need to vacuum this room! And I'm washing those sheets, I don't care!!
Me: Okay, wash them-
Mom: YOU WON'T CLEAN THE ROOM FOR VACUUMING! AND YOU WERE ALWAYS IN THE BED!
Me: I did last week, but then a few hours later was when I got sick so I was in here.
Mom: You don't do anything, you don't even put away your clothes!!!
Me: I put away ALL my clothes O_O
Mom: OH YEA!? What about *mystery pile I hadn't seen*
Me: Oh, okay.
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Mom: I'm not cleaning around your TV shows all the time!
Me: You mean the 2 hours scattered throughout the day that you always stop and watch too?
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Mom: I'm NOT waiting 3 hours to finish my cleaning so you can watch TV!! *Random yelling*
Me: ..I'm not even watching TV right now.
Annnd then when I came in here to scan a picture she just flew into some yelling rant about how lazy I am and how much I suck. I was listening until she said I get up and go "You old people, you work around me" ...just..what? I closed the door and that pissed her off even more and she yelled at me for closing the door to a room I don't own and I'm not allowed to do that.
She closes it on me all the time though when she doesn't want my music to be too loud or she doesn't want the tiny bit of light getting into her room. She's TOLD me to close it before.
The woman has entitlement issues, seriously x.x She loves to tell me how everything in this house isn't mine over and over, and this is HER house and so on. When she feels angry about me using the computer, she yells at me about this not being my room since it's the guest room.
It's like this EVERY DAY now! Used to be a couple times a week but every day. I don't get it. I'm not even in her way most of the time, and if there is the slightest hance I might be, she throws a fit and tells me. If I'm on the computer, I'm lazy, but if I'm doing anything in the living room or my room or the kitchen, ANYWHERE I'm in her way.
What's worse is she like..imagines me saying things x.x Like I'll roll my eyes at her or whatever and she'll go into this tangent about how I'm an awful brat, and I'll never succeed and I'll be a fat pasty nerd...my favorite was when she claimed she was going to move out of this house before I do because I'm such a loser. LOL yea okay. She won't even get a job, and the time is well past that she can claim it's due to me. I don't need her around like when before I had my license and such. She won't look for a job, she just cleans and bitches every day. And talks about how much she hates Vermont.
You moved here Einstein, it's not my fault you moved to the sticks or that you got pregnant. Fuck.
x.x I can't wait to move out.
Me: *Walking around in kitchen* You know I can't tell if I'm hungry, it sucks my appetite is still dead-
Mom: DON'T STEP IN MY DIRT!!! I was going to vacuum there but when you wake up late I have to clean late around you because you just get in the way!!!
Me: O_O I've been up for a few hours... (why the hell can't she clean before I get up as well?)
---
Me: *In my room getting some dirty clothes together, lalalala*
Mom: We need to vacuum this room! And I'm washing those sheets, I don't care!!
Me: Okay, wash them-
Mom: YOU WON'T CLEAN THE ROOM FOR VACUUMING! AND YOU WERE ALWAYS IN THE BED!
Me: I did last week, but then a few hours later was when I got sick so I was in here.
Mom: You don't do anything, you don't even put away your clothes!!!
Me: I put away ALL my clothes O_O
Mom: OH YEA!? What about *mystery pile I hadn't seen*
Me: Oh, okay.
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Mom: I'm not cleaning around your TV shows all the time!
Me: You mean the 2 hours scattered throughout the day that you always stop and watch too?
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Mom: I'm NOT waiting 3 hours to finish my cleaning so you can watch TV!! *Random yelling*
Me: ..I'm not even watching TV right now.
Annnd then when I came in here to scan a picture she just flew into some yelling rant about how lazy I am and how much I suck. I was listening until she said I get up and go "You old people, you work around me" ...just..what? I closed the door and that pissed her off even more and she yelled at me for closing the door to a room I don't own and I'm not allowed to do that.
She closes it on me all the time though when she doesn't want my music to be too loud or she doesn't want the tiny bit of light getting into her room. She's TOLD me to close it before.
The woman has entitlement issues, seriously x.x She loves to tell me how everything in this house isn't mine over and over, and this is HER house and so on. When she feels angry about me using the computer, she yells at me about this not being my room since it's the guest room.
It's like this EVERY DAY now! Used to be a couple times a week but every day. I don't get it. I'm not even in her way most of the time, and if there is the slightest hance I might be, she throws a fit and tells me. If I'm on the computer, I'm lazy, but if I'm doing anything in the living room or my room or the kitchen, ANYWHERE I'm in her way.
What's worse is she like..imagines me saying things x.x Like I'll roll my eyes at her or whatever and she'll go into this tangent about how I'm an awful brat, and I'll never succeed and I'll be a fat pasty nerd...my favorite was when she claimed she was going to move out of this house before I do because I'm such a loser. LOL yea okay. She won't even get a job, and the time is well past that she can claim it's due to me. I don't need her around like when before I had my license and such. She won't look for a job, she just cleans and bitches every day. And talks about how much she hates Vermont.
You moved here Einstein, it's not my fault you moved to the sticks or that you got pregnant. Fuck.
x.x I can't wait to move out.
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Date: 2008-01-21 11:08 pm (UTC)She'll appreciate you more if you move out. At least that's what I feel about my mom... We get along better since I'm away... kinda... sad actually *lol*
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Date: 2008-01-22 01:22 am (UTC)One thing about relationships is that we always have to make a distinction between criticizing what someone does and who someone is, and it doesn't sound like your mom understands that distinction. She's not saying "please sleep late in a different room" or "please expect me to wake you up with the vacuum cleaner at such and such a time," she's saying that you never clean up after yourself and criticizing your appearance--which isn't true anyway, I have seen a few pictures of you here and there, and you're really pretty.
I've had to learn too, that sometimes our parents don't understand everything about us. Okay, that came out way too cliched. I'll try again...sometimes there's this core inside of us that we're struggling to find, our dreams and unique place in this world, and for some reason our parents are blind to that. I don't think all parents are--I have a lot of friends whose parents look for and encourage that core inside them, even when they aren't perfect, and the dear friend I babysit for is my model in doing that with her two children--but there are parents who don't. I know that when I was little, most of my identity was wrapped up in being the model Christian daughter that my dad wanted me to be. It wasn't faked (I wasn't forced through the motions of religion the way a lot of my friends were), but it wasn't really my faith--then when I made it my own, I lost Dad too. That wasn't my fault, but my friends still used to get so annoyed with me when I'd try to find that core in myself, and then hold it up against what Dad wanted rather than what I wanted, you know? I guess what I'm saying is, find your core and find your dreams, and the incredible person I see inside you, and hold on as best you can despite any other criticisms.
Is there any way you'd be able to get an apartment for the summers/schoolyear? Let me know if I can be of any practical help. It's one of those things that looks a lot more daunting than it is, especially with roommates. I also know that my own confidence in my abilities as a housekeeper, my own self-discipline, etc. grew a hundredfold once I had to keep my own house and my own schedule. It's easier than it looks, instead of harder.
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Date: 2008-01-22 05:14 am (UTC)And I get the same stuff from my mum. "Meg why haven't you cleaned your room!" "Um mum it is" "What about the mess in the corner!" "Umm thats your stuff." "Oh..well do the dishwasher!"
Seriously I have my mum's junk in my room.
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Date: 2008-01-22 06:06 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-23 06:54 am (UTC)Mothers are a right pain in the ass, hun. Don't worry about her too much. <33
*big hugs*